Mentorship and Spiritual Parents: Where Are They Today?

In today’s fast-paced and self-directed world, the concept of mentorship—especially spiritual mentorship—is often overlooked. Many believers pursue a self-guided faith journey, relying on sermons, books, and social media rather than personal discipleship. But is this how God intended spiritual growth to happen? The Bible speaks of the importance of mentorship and spiritual parenting, yet these roles seem less prominent in modern Christianity.

The Role of Spiritual Parents and Mentors

Spiritual parents and mentors serve as guides, helping believers grow in their faith, character, and calling. In Scripture, we see examples of mentorship shaping lives:

• Moses and Joshua – Moses prepared Joshua to lead Israel (Deuteronomy 31:7-8).

• Elijah and Elisha – Elisha received a double portion of Elijah’s anointing because of his close mentorship (2 Kings 2:9-10).

• Paul and Timothy – Paul called Timothy his “true son in the faith” (1 Timothy 1:2) and trained him for ministry.

These relationships were intentional, involving teaching, correction, encouragement, and accountability. Yet, in today’s world, the idea of having a spiritual father, mother, or mentor is often dismissed or undervalued.

The Need for Mentorship in Today’s Church

A mentor offers wisdom, accountability, and a personal investment in someone’s spiritual growth. Many young believers struggle with isolation, confusion, or lack of direction because they lack godly mentors to help them navigate life’s challenges. A spiritual parent helps with:

• Spiritual Maturity – Teaching foundational biblical principles and character development.

• Accountability – Helping the mentee stay on track in their faith journey.

• Healing and Deliverance – Providing guidance through emotional and spiritual struggles.

• Practical Life Application – Teaching how to apply biblical wisdom to everyday decisions.

Unfortunately, modern Christianity often leans towards self-guided faith rather than personal discipleship.

Biblical Discipleship vs. Self-Guided Faith

Biblical Discipleship (Mentorship Model)

Pros:

✔ Provides accountability and correction.

✔ Fosters deep relationships and community.

✔ Offers wisdom from experienced believers.

✔ Encourages personal growth through guidance.

Cons:

✖ Can become controlling if not done biblically.

✖ Requires humility and submission to leadership.

✖ Finding a truly godly mentor can be difficult.

Self-Guided Faith (Independent Model)

Pros:

✔ Encourages personal responsibility and study.

✔ Allows for more flexibility in spiritual growth.

✔ Can be beneficial for those who struggle with unhealthy leadership.

Cons:

✖ Lacks accountability, leading to possible deception.

✖ Can create isolation and hinder relational growth.

✖ Removes the wisdom and covering of experienced believers.

Where Do We Go From Here?

To grow as the body of Christ, we must restore the balance between personal responsibility and biblical mentorship. Instead of rejecting discipleship, we should seek godly spiritual parents who reflect Christ’s heart. Churches should foster mentorship programs, and believers should actively seek out and invest in others.

Reflection Questions

1. Do you have a mentor or spiritual parent in your life? If not, what’s holding you back from seeking one?

2. Have you been discipling or mentoring others in their faith journey?

3. Do you struggle with the idea of accountability and submission in spiritual relationships? Why or why not?

4. How has self-guided faith helped or hindered your spiritual growth?

5. What steps can you take today to embrace biblical discipleship?

Mentorship and spiritual parenting are not outdated—they are essential. If we truly desire to grow in Christ and fulfill His calling, we must rediscover the value of godly mentorship and discipleship.